Mutual Respect in Teams
Developing mutual respect in the workplace is similar to filling a piggy bank. As a supervisor and team we should be constantly putting esteem deposits into the teams piggy banks. Be conscious of building a culture that identifies small positive esteem investments from appreciations to rewards and compliments to recognition.
As much as we can try to grow the investment in the piggy bank to overflowing within our team... chances are we will never make it to overflowing (and if we do isn’t that a great problem to have), as inevitably a negative event will happen and we will lose some of our esteem investment. The hope is that over time we have invested so much into the piggy bank that we don’t become esteem bankrupt and will have something to rebuild from with more small investments over time.
According to Richard Lavoie it is essential to build people up with as much investment as possible everyday. We need to make sure that people leave their daily experience with us with more in their piggy bank than they came with. To do that it is important that we take away only what we need to from them when there is an issue. And to be an advocate for them when others are trying to take them away.
Ideas for Building Mutual Respect in the Workplace:
Are We Birds of A Feather?
I was a chicken farmer and a Lovebird breeder -- I know weird right (read: Value #4 below). What I've learned is that certain birds get along better together than others. In business I've learned, like you I'm sure, that this is true - there are clients/team members/etc. that belong in our flock, and those that do not.
That's why planning, hiring and corporate identity is so important. Connecting with the right birds strengthens your flock. Keeping the wrong ones will erode your efforts. Think about these three things:
Explore who should stay and who should go. Keeping people in a job they dislike is a disservice to everyone (them included). Take a long hard look at who's in your employ, are they really "on the same team" or just place holders? are their changes that need to be made?
Planning for measurable results. Taking time from the rigor of your busy business day with your team to revisit (or create) measurable tactical plans will realize quantifiable results. Remember, to grow, innovate, and collaborate - that team success drives results (and separates your authentic flock from the eggs of the Cuckoos).
Drill down on your corporate identity. It is aligned with your current culture? Does it adequately reflect you? your reality? your future?
We just finished a great process to refresh who we are. It's something I like to do with our company every year or two. I want to share it with you, because maybe we should flock together (link me to your purpose)? or maybe you could tag a company or person who I should get to know ... hey, let's be birds of a feather.
Tyler Hayden Inc. builds the best programs, ignites unexpected learning, and inspires people to connect and grow to do good things.
"Deliver super-sized out-a-the-box fun, covered in learning awesomesauce."
For years (20 actually) I have been building and providing team building experiences for groups from project managers and team leads to executive directors and CEO's. About 6 months ago my computer got a bit clunky because of all the data that was stored on it (buckets of team building stuff) ... and it got me thinking, this isn't helping anyone sitting in my hard drive... so www.teammover.com was born.
In between speaking events I have been adding content. I have 15 different downloadable activities up so far (plus my books) ... as a bit of a celebration I'm offering a 40% discount on any downloadable till June 15, 2016 (coupon code "mover40"). Everything in that part of the store is only $7.77 (lucky 7 pricing) any day of the week... but with 40% off its around $5 ...
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Here is my take on #team building and how to make it work. Providing a train-the-trainer session for #PMI on how to build project teams virtually and on site. Take a quick listen to find out about the state of #teams in today's business world. And hey if you have any questions comment below... love to chat.
Here are a few random ideas of team building things you can do at your coming team building events or just for fun at work. If you are looking for other cool things learn more about team building on our site or buy great team building resources in our store (some cost less then a fancy coffee).
Coffee Bar - Shut your office door, put garbage bags up on your windows and bring in your table lamps from home (shag carpet if you have it) to make a groovy atmosphere for a coffee house. Set up a stool in the corner and invite in your team. Pass out some “fancy coffees” and invite each person to take the stool and answer the “groovy question” - ie “What are you most excited about for this quarter? or What was your biggest success so far this year?”
Wiilympics - Set up a Wii or other game console in your staff room. Invite team members in to have a bit of an olympic competition. Pick a game every day that everyone gets to play once and track peoples scores. Have a medal ceremony at the end of the week.
Coffee Talk - Take each member of your team out for coffee and a “taulk”. Use our Coffee Talk game book to help frame some fun and off the wall chats... Totally fun way to get to know your team without breaking the bank.
Egg Hunt - Inform your team to meet you at the office for a very important meeting at 8:30am sharp. Set up a chocolate egg hunt around your office, before you leave the night before the said meeting. Then put up crime scene tape on the door so no one enters in the morning. When they all arrive tell them there has been a reverse robbery and 100 chocolate eggs were hidden in the office, and they need to be found before then melt. Once they have found all the eggs team members tell one interesting fact about themselves for every egg they found.
Charity Chase - Pick one of your clients or local charities. Have a “volunteer day” and have your team work to help improve that clients position or service delivery. Help them by doing things on their “to do list” like painting rooms, building gardens or installing shelving. Or volunteer your teams expertise -- i.e. in building a strategic plan or doing some accounting for an NFP.
Mobile Car Wash - Hire a mobile car wash to come and clean all your teams cars while they are at work. Leave a hand written note in an envelope under their windshield washer thanking them for their help and great work.
Tail Gate Lunchbox - Bring in a pick up truck, bb-q and some root beers on ice. Set up in the parking lot crank some tunes, set out some lawn chairs and have a long lunch together. Eat some burgers, hot dogs and chips and celebrate your winning team or use the event to “open” up a new quarter of game (business) play.
Monet’s Canvas - Bring in some small canvasses, latex paint and some brushes and get each member of your team to paint a picture based on your “key question.” Some key questions you could use include: “Paint a picture of the strength you bring to the team, or paint a picture of where we will be as an organization in 5 years.” Combine those paintings together to form a patchwork quilt of your teams vision and hang it in your office.
Business of Sport - Take your team out to a semi pro or pro sporting event... After the game talk to your team about what they saw the teams doing right, what it took to win, and how that applies to your upcoming business pursuits. Use the game as a metaphor for business and continue the investment by sending cards with the game ball on it, make jerseys for team events, play a “team” theme song, etc.
Ice Cream Bar - Remember how you used to lose it when the ice cream truck came driving into town. Pick a hot summer day and wheel up a table with all the makings of a sundae bar... invite the team to shinny up to the bar and make a decadent treat.
Dunker Rooney - Throughout the week deliver a baseball to each of your team members and tell them that they are super important. Rent a dunk tank and have it delivered and covered in your company parking lot. Put a poster/sign on the target of one your your team goals for the quarter. Send a group email or text and have the group meet you down in the parking lot with their baseballs. Then, with you sitting on the dunk seat tell your team that you want them to hit the stated goal (aka target) so bad that you dare them to do it. When everyone has thrown their allotted balls talk about what it will take for the team to hit their goal.
Full Value Contract - Take out a piece of bristol board and markers and put them in the center of the group. Ask them to draw an icon of something that metaphors a group behaviour that “we” need to do to make our team successful (i.e. ears for listening, weights for working hard, etc.) After each icon is drawn get the group to agree that that is something that they agree that their group needs to be successful. Once everyone has drawn and explained their drawing you will have an agreed to behavioural contract.
Business is a Gong Show - Set up a metal gong in the center of your sales team. Every time they make a sale they get to go up and hit the gong. You can support their success either by everyone else clapping and cheering or hand out kazoos or harmonicas and have everyone else join in a chorus of cacophony.
Scavenger Hunter - Compile a list of things that your team might be able to find on their person. At your meeting break the team into equal parts (3 to a team is great) and have them see how many of each item they can find in 5 minutes. Teams get a point for each item they find -- i.e. penny, cell phone, tissue, etc. Winning team gets a prize or just bragging rights.
Literature Group - Set up a book group at your work. Read professional writings and have discussion groups around the content of the book. This is a great virtual activity as the ebook can be instantly accessed by everyone and comments can be easily posted on the wall of a social networking site for everyone to interact with.
DJ’s Top 10 - Have a lunch and share of team members favorite music. Get one person every friday to host the DJ’s Top 10 - where they share the top songs of their lifetime. Play snips of these songs together and send each member of the group an iTunes list of the songs or come up with another “imaginative way” of sharing the music without breaking copyright of course -- nudge nudge wink wink.
iDepth Tour - Have a different member of your team start your meeting by sharing their favorite “out of the way place” in cyberspace or their favorite App. The presenter gets 5 minutes to show why they love this cyberspacious place or the functionality/fun of the App.
Sumorama - Rent some inflatable sumo suits and have a bit of a battle royale. Teams that play together stay together.
Ahoy Mate - Set up a day to go sailing. You can learn allot about team work from the runnings of a sailing vessel... or for some more passive fun set up a treasure hunt and hire a sail boat to help you find the treasure. Make stations along the way with challenges that the team has to complete and make the “treasure” an outdoor bb-q on the beach. Fun in the sun.
Retro Bowl - Get some really tacky bowling shirts made with your company logo and peoples names. Rent out the local bowling alley and hike down for a retro bowling tournament. Serve hotdogs and beer, crank a little Twisted Sister, and turn on the black lights to give this party a little “charm.”
Lanyard Bedazzling - Set your team apart from the others in your cubical nation by bedazzling your lanyards with plastic jewels and other bling. Make this the treasure at the end of a measurable business outcome and lock the bedazzler in a treasure chest for all to see. When you hit the goal crack it open and bedazzle each other!
Real Face Book - Take some photos of your team at a retreat, on the job, from their past, etc and compile a photo book of each other. Include some data about each team member like where they are from, what they do for the company and even quirky things. You can grab this information by sending out a quick “survey” before you start putting the book together. These are particularly good for teams working virtually... in fact it doesn’t even have to be printed now does it.
Tour de Trike - Grab a couple of trikes from the local bike shop and set up either a obstecle course in your parking lot or map out a route around the block for a race (make sure you ensure safe riding). Break the group up in teams and ride in the Tour de Trike.
I like you because... - Write those very simple words on the top of a piece of paper and photocopy enough for everyone in your team. Tape the paper on the backs of every person in your team. Pass out some markers and have people move from back to back answering the statement about why they like that individual.
Pot Luck - It works for churches, and associations why not your team? I like to ramp up the “traditional pot luck” and give some constraints for the dish they bring, i.e. must be from your country of origin, must use only 4 ingredients, has to contain all food groups, etc.
Bored Olympics - Go online and find a site that has really easy to play games like bored.com. Then, invite your team to have a Olympic Game challenge by breaking into countries and tracking scores. Give out medals if you like or just dish out bragging rights. This is a great adaptation for virtual teams, just pick your favorite social networking site to post scores.
Intranet Hunt - Deposit some clues inside “client files” or other “shared workspaces” inside your intranet. Give team members clues as to where to find them. Then set them loose... first person to complete the intranet hunt wins.
Internet Hunt - Set up a challenge for your team to find a list of obscure items online... compile their findings in a powerpoint or keynote presentation rip to PDF and send it to you... The person who finds the most wins. Great fun for virtual teams.
Wikiworld - Looking for a great fast forward event that can be done with a virtual team. Try wikiworld. Essentially, what you do is frame out “something” that needs to be explained, either about a project, business line, etc. and build a wiki (think wikipedia) about the topic. You can also set them up to get different team members to get to know each other, if ahead of time each person builds their own wiki.
Tweetbuzz - Looking for instant feedback on your team event, both online and onsite. Use twitter. Set up a twitter feed to show within your presentation and set up your own hashtag for people to comment with that will show up on your live feed. Great way to quickly get audience feedback, share ideas, brainstorm and more with a team.
Glossary of Team - we use a lot of vernacular in our business world. Why not use that “unique” quality of your group to build a glossary of us. Develop and interact with a unique glossary of words or sayings that mean something to your group. Post it on a shared document, social networking site, etc. and have people add new terms as they come into daily life of the group.
Voice Threads - really cool way especially in virtual and 24/7 environment to collaborate around a project or team project. You can upload your voice, new media and discuss the project while adding sketches to the photo, see what others are saying, and more... (www.voicethread.com)
If you were asked to write a message in a bottle that would leave lasting impact on your children, what would your write? What message of love, leadership or legacy lives inside of you that needs to be imparted on your most loved ones?
That’s exactly the challenge that international speaker Tyler Hayden laid out for his second book in the Message in a Bottle Book series (www.messageinabottlebook.com). Mother’s Message in a Bottle compiled some of the most beautiful loving letters for life. What is even more awesome is he left a space in the front of the book to encourage other moms like you and I to include ours.
Mom’s are amazing. And this compilation proves to be a wonderful gift to give or receive. Check out some of the beautiful insight shared:
Lee Ann Thieman, “My Son”
This amazing Mom brought home her son Mitch, along with 100’s of other babies displaced during the Vietnam War as part of Operation Baby Lift. Her message was about how Mitch chose her, seemingly part of a more divine plan.
She wrote, “I opened the door and entered a room filled with one hundred babies. Babies on blankets and mats. Babies in boxes and baskets bassinets and cribs.
How would I ever choose?
But there you were ... wearing only a diaper, with your round tummy bulging over its rim. I watched as you pulled yourself up to stand beside a wooden crib and tugged the toes of the baby sleeping inside. Then you looked at me, dropped to your hands and knees and began crawling to me. We met halfway across the room and I picked you up. You looked at me and smiled brightly, showing off your chubby cheeks and deep pimples. As I hugged you, you nestled your head into my shoulder.
‘Maybe you’ll be our son,’ I whispered.”
Charity Sampson, “Badge of Courage”
RCMP officer was diagnosed with Cancer when her daughter was only seven. She passes on the lessons she would want her brave and brilliant daughter to know, while she engaged in the battle for her life.
“I never thought that the biggest lessons we would both get would come from cancer, but they have. You will grow to the woman you choose, but I hope that when you think about the type of mother you saw every day, she is one you would be proud to be like. I hope I danced enough in the kitchen for you to know that you have to cut loose and have fun even when you feel like crying. I hope you heard me yell at enough rude drivers to know not to let people treat you poorly, in a car or not. I hope you saw me cry one minute but then saw me wipe my tears the next when you walked in the room and I asked you about your day, for it showed you that I have vulnerability but also fortitude. I hope you saw that it didn’t embarrass me wen people stared at the large scar across my neck and I was proud of it because it was another badge I’d earned, this time with courage.”
Gina Schreck, The Cord of a Legacy
A social media expert who’s boundless energy and spirit is the spark for her children’s boundless possibilities.
“I grew up not really knowing the love of a mother or father. I was raised by a struggling, single teenaged mother who was trying to find love herself. It’s hard to be intention about leaving a positive legacy to our children when you are in survival mode, but you leave a legacy regardless.
Good, bad and ugly we pass on to our children an emotional, relational, and spiritual legacy. It can be beautifully braided cord of the three that ties us to our history and pulls us toward a wonderful future or a tattered rope that we can barely hold onto....
I hope that I have nurtured in each of you the seed of encouragement that gives you the confidence to reach for big dreams and bold adventures. Don’t settle for mediocrity. Run from it. Fight it with every fiber of your being. Climb a little higher than you thought you could and don’t let dreams go unexplored. There is so much more of life to live the most people realize. I’m cheering for you.”
Leading With Intelligence By Tyler Hayden BRM (OEE)
To better reach our team members leaders have long looked at personality instruments like Myers-Briggs, and we have had great results in generating management approaches based on personality profiles. Today however, we need to consider more than just personalities. We work within industries that have an employee base that have spent many years constructing who they are through years of formal education. This educational profile is the new gateway to applied leadership strategies for managers.
Write down the following eight learning styles on a sheet of paper. As you read the descriptions below jot the names of co-workers, friends and family that would have high skill in that learning domain beside those learning styles. By understanding peoples learning styles we can begin to better design training approaches, team structure, reward and recognition strategies, communication strategies, and more. Consider these eight different learning styles you'll find in your employees.
This intelligence indicates a well-developed sense of body control and movement while being able to handle objects skillfully. These learners express themselves well through movement. By interacting with the space around them, they are able to remember and process information. (i.e. athlete, firefighter, coach, police, dancer, actor)
Tips for Managing this person: We respond to short explanations, practicing tasks, constructing things, and setting goals. Be face-to-face with us as often as possible. We love when you champion us to actively find solutions. Let us keep "moving and doing" to keep us engaged at work. And please, be efficient with your words.
This intelligence indicates a keen ability to relate to and understand others. Individuals have a seemingly innate ability to see things from other people’s perspectives in order to understand how they think and feel. They often have an unprecedented ability to sense the feelings, intentions, and motivations of others. They are great organizers; although, they sometimes resort to manipulations to achieve their ends. Generally, they encourage group peace and cooperation. They use both verbal and nonverbal language to open communication channels with others. (i.e., counsellor, sales person, business person, clergy, service personnel)
Tips for Managing this person: We respond to public recognition and assignments that involve working with people. Remember that we can inspire a crowd we can bring people onside to help or demolish you. Give us an opportunity to lead projects. Please ensure that we don't work alone. Only have conversations that are conflict based in private. Finally, ensure that we "get our turn" when in a group setting.
This intelligence indicates a keen awareness of one’s inner state of being. These learners try to understand their inner feelings, dreams, relationships with others, and strengths and weaknesses. (i.e. researcher, adventurer, explorer, philosopher)
Tips for Managing this person: Accolades should be kept private and meaningful. We are self-motivated to do the things we are passionate about. Communicate with us in a way that allows us to "craft a response" over time i.e. email. We enjoy learning in a mentor/mentee relationship and self-reflection/discovery time. I am very good at developing visions and missions. We can tend to be "cut and dry" so please help us soften our impact on others. Finally, we are not comfortable with the "leap of faith" or risk taking, so please be sure you really mean it if you are asking us to do this.
This intelligence indicates a highly developed ability to use words and language effectively. Individuals have highly developed auditory skills and generally are very good speakers. Learners with a heightened Linguistic Intelligence tend to think in terms of words rather than pictures. (i.e., lawyer, teacher, sales, consultant, politician)
Tips for Managing this person: We are your go to for verbal and written communication. We love to debate you (or anyone for that matter). We like to have things documented so that we can refer to it. Please take time to consult with us to find solutions we like to be part of things if we are going to be tasked with it in our portfolio. Finally, remember that we have an opinion - please take the time to hear us.
This intelligence indicates an increased ability to produce and appreciate anything musical. Individuals tend to think in terms of sounds, rhythms, and patterns. They are affected deeply by what they hear and can become distracted by external noise. (i.e., DJ, musician, composer, singer)
Tips for Managing this person: I get patterns and can deconstruct a larger concept very easily. I can be sensitive, so please don't push too hard I am self critical and like things done right. If at all possible, have things set out in logical patterns. We will be very excited about a product or service once it is delivered perfectly. Finally, I love to have music playing and it will often reflect how I feel, plus be careful of "external noise" it drives me crazy.
This intelligence indicates a heightened ability to use reason, logic, and numbers effectively. These learners think conceptually in logical and numerical patterns, making connections between pieces of information. They are very curious about the world around them. They ask a lot of questions and enjoy experimenting. (i.e., medical personnel, accountant, scientist, researcher, engineer)
Tips for Managing this person: I really like when explanations are kept short and not full of "fluff." Give me the answer efficiently and effectively. I will like to experiment to find the best way of doing things. If you want me to get involved challenge me to find the answer (and make my success measurable). Manage me by the numbers, if we can't measure it, it doesn't exist. Please show me how your request has a logical sequence and that ultimately it is measurable and connected to "real" business objectives (a.k.a. the bottom line).
This intelligence indicates a keen ability to see the connections and cycles of natural processes. They enjoy classifying things into areas of responsibility, placement and category. They easily connect cause and effect and illustrate patterns. They appreciate knowing how things are connected to real life. (i.e. project manager, landscaper, outdoor guide, engineer)
Tips for Managing this person: I get how things are connected, cycle and flow. If you need someone to figure out the "process" of doing something I should be part of that. Classifying things into logical chunks is easy for me and I like doing it. I can really understand things better if you show me a map or chart that I can follow to measure my performance. Finally, I get the idea of cause and effect in a really deep way and I'm an awesome "big picture" thinker.
This intelligence indicates an increased ability to perceive the visual cues. Individuals tend to think in terms of pictures and movies. In order to retain information, they need to create vivid visual images. (i.e., artist, mechanic, web/graphic designer, architect)
Tips for Managing this person: I will speak to you in terms of how I "see" the final product. I love to build, construct, draw, layout, etc a task or work item visually. We really appreciate beauty and form in our work, things are finished till they look nice. I like to have visual reminders at my workstation. If we are working on something, a chart, map, or movie is really beneficial it grounds the concept for me. Finally, show me a picture of what you are thinking wherever possible, I'll get us there and even a bit more.
Tyler Hayden is a management consultant, professional speaker, and author. He works with groups internationally building meaningful and content rich leadership and team solutions. Tyler lives with his family on a sea side chicken farm in the historic town of Lunenburg, Nova Scotia - where he sits as a town councillor. Learn more about him at www.tylerhayden.com. Finally, if you are looking for a special tool to connect to family please explore his new inspiring book series www.messageinabottlebook.com.